My favorite poet is getting married in Paris next Friday. We are leaving this weekend to help him celebrate this momentous occasion. Parents often fantasize about the future of their children, and I confess I’m no different. However, when he was finishing the university, I never dreamt that he would decide to settle in Paris and find a bride in the City of Lights. She’s a wonderful young woman; intelligent, attractive, down to earth, but most importantly – she makes him happy. Now we will have the opportunity to see a melding of cultures and lives. There’s something touching and poignant about two young people at the threshhold of their futures together. You can’t but help remember how you were in the same stage of your own life. You want to pass on all the wisdom and experience you had acquired over the years, and realize this is not possible.
You’ve done all you can. Your child is grown, and you can only hope that that he will remain as happy in the future as he appears to be today. You wish for the Fates to be kind to him, and for he and his bride to have a wonderful life together. With some reluctance, you accept his change of allegiance. After all, you did the same. With nostalgia, you recall those highlights from his childhood – taking his first steps into the ocean, his sitting on your shoulders as you hiked up the mountain, his curly blond head coming down the slopes at the end of his ski run. You know he will always remember the special times you have shared; you also realize things will never be the same again.
The wedding will be a small, private, family affair. I’m glad this is the kind of ceremony they have chosen for themselves. I feel it’s unfortunate that the wedding industry and social one upmanship has created some of the three ring circuses we have all witnessed. The joining of two lives is a cause for celebration, but the festivities should not overshadow the reason for the event. We will respect the privacy of the newlyweds, but I promise to post some Paris photos upon our return. Until then, dear bloggers, be well.